Text Me Not

The 7 Biggest Misuses of Texting
For those of you who use text messaging as a form of communication with someone you’re dating, whether you have a BlackBerry or an Apple iPhone, text messaging is the most abused and misinterpreted form of communication out there.
[Dating coach, David Wygant]

So, here are seven of the biggest misuses of texting that you should avoid in the dating context:

1. Save the Jokes. One drawback of texting (as with any written form of communication) is that it is sometimes difficult to convey the tone of what you write. Words are often misinterpreted. You can text somebody something that you think is a joke, and they don’t read it that way. This will get you into trouble, because they may never call you back and give you the opportunity to straighten out the misunderstanding. So if you want to tell someone you’re dating a joke, it’s best to save it and tell it to them in person.

2. Texting is Not Intended to Cancel a Date. If you don’t want to see somebody again, you need to call them and cancel the plans. Texting is the chicken way to blow someone off, whether you ever intended to see them again or not.

3. Don’t Ask Someone Out via Text Message. [People] can’t stand when a guy asks them out via text messaging. Every [person] I’ve spoken to thinks that when a guy asks them out via text message, that he really is not that interested in them. They all wish a guy would just pick up the phone. Guys, if you’re interested then be a man and just pick up the phone! Granted, some [people] will say yes to a text date, but they will always prefer if you call them.

4. Avoid the ‘Morning After’ Text. If you had a great date with someone the night before, don’t text the person the minute you get up the next morning. Wait a few hours. Let the post-date recap settle down on both sides. Give someone a little time to think about you. There’s no harm in waiting a few hours, especially after a first date. You don’t want to look over-anxious.

5. Keep the Texting to a Minimum. Once you’ve texted back and forth a few times, and unless one of you is in a Turkish prison being tortured by a not-so-friendly cell mate, you need to pick up the phone and have a real conversation. You will not discover whether you share a true connection with someone by conversing with them via text message. Also, as two adults, you need to have an actual voice-to-voice conversation. So go ahead and exchange a few texts, but then get yourself on the phone!

6. You May Not Get an Answer. Just because you texted someone, doesn’t mean they’re going to respond. This is another issue with using text messaging as your main communication method — especially in the dating context. You’re texting back and forth with someone, then you send something to them and they don’t respond. They may have gotten on the phone. They may have fallen asleep. They may have gone into a meeting. Because texting is so impersonal, though, you don’t know what happened to them.

7. You Are Left Wondering. Let’s say you texted someone on a Tuesday, they responded to your text, you texted them again and… now it’s Friday and they still haven’t texted back. What does someone do in that situation? They may not be keeping a text count like you are. They may have forgotten to text you back because they got on a long phone call or got caught up in some work, and your text may have gotten lost. Let me ask you a question? Do you answer every email that comes in… or does one sometimes get buried and go unanswered? If you haven’t heard from someone in a few days, pick up the phone and call them. You never know what they’re response is going to be. Most of the time you’re going to be pleasantly surprised, but all of the time you’re going to get your answer. That’s what dating is all about… getting answers. Plus, you won’t drive yourself and your friends crazy wondering.

One thought on “Text Me Not

  1. ALSO, dont text when youre drunk/high!!
    This has happened to me all the time, and I end up texting people things they shouldn’t know.

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